A totally representative work

(this post started on my family blog)

I was flipping through the pages of the school yearbook with my son and daughter.

On more than one occasion, I would remark on this pretty girl or that handsome guy and ask about them

“She is drunk all of the time.”

“But her parents said how proud they are of the person she’s become.”

“Dad, the cops have had to deal with her.”

I flipped a few more pages…

A 1/2 page ad by some parents who are proud of the “fine young man” their son has become.

“What is he like?”

“Oh, he’s gay.”

“What do you mean?”

“I mean he’s openly gay.”

I was disappointed several more times.

It’s not that I think every kid is an angel. I’m not that dumb. Shoot, I was messed up. I was fairly straight until I left high school but that was because I largely lacked opportunity. As soon as I left home, I went into complete self-destruct mode.

Maybe the parents don’t know. I know that my wife and I were blind sided when our second daughter went south on us. We discovered it accidentally. It was a real blow to me because I am and have been a very involved father.

Some parents are actively helping their kids self destruct. They buy the alcohol and are fine with their kids getting drunk. Maybe they really are proud of them! This is in wealthy, upper middle class Overland Park, KS! I know a couple of them. Their son is well on his way to becoming an alcoholic and they took out an ad to tell him that they are proud of the “remarkable young man” he has become.

I realize that this is not politically correct but…

Are we helping our homosexual son by telling him that he has become a “fine young man?” Has the bar been lowered that much? Whatever happened to raising a young man who will love a (singular) woman and become a father to their children? Is everything equal?

Should we tell our promiscuous daughter that we are proud of the person she has become while she reduces herself to being a momentary good time to a bunch of guys?

Whatever happened to shame? Does it have no place in our culture anymore? Is there nothing our kid can do that makes us ashamed of them? Is there nothing for which they should be ashamed?

Have we become so politicized that we are afraid to tell our own children that there is a right and a wrong? Are we unwilling to be the one person who will tell them that what they are doing is wrong?

After the truth came out about our daughter, we reached out to her in every way we could think of but we didn’t suddenly abandon our values and pretend that we accepted her behavior.

My parents didn’t either…and they weren’t “holy roller Christians” like I am. I knew that I was screwing up. No matter how cool my friends thought I was, my conscience told me otherwise.

I think if my parents took out a huge ad in the school yearbook to tell me how proud they were of me while I was doing it, it would have only made it worse. It would have confirmed one of two alienating facts: either that they really didn’t have a clue about my life or if they did know what was going on, they really didn’t care.

Our culture is reeling. We are lost because we no longer know what is right and what is wrong. Everything has become equal. And so we now congratulate what should be reproved. “It’s all good.”

I believe an old, “outdated” Book that has become “totally irrelevant” in our modern society said it best, “we now glory in our shame.”

There’s no bias

On the way home tonight, I learned that Barack Obama’s inauguration will cost $150 million. 

While I do not watch the news, I work around people who do and I have not heard any comments about this. I find this a little strange. 

If I remember correctly, the US economy was chugging along pretty well in January of 2005. However, at that time, the agenda driven media constantly harangued President George W. Bush about the “irresponsible” and “extravagant” spending of $40 million for the inauguration.

Now, not a peep. No one is talking about it. And this in the midst of what the incoming President himself has termed the worst economic crisis in the last century.

Hmmm…do you think that your news might be filtered for you?

What about Separation?


I realize that we are not a Christian nation, either in our institutions, our laws or our behaviors.

However, if you believe the current rhetoric, we were never were. Judicial activists contend that these United States were secular right from our inception and seek to interpret the Constitution in that light.

I wonder how they interpret the first proclamation of Thanksgiving by the Continental Congress in 1777:

FOR AS MUCH as it is the indispensable Duty of all Men to adore the superintending Providence of Almighty God; to acknowledge with Gratitude their Obligation to him for Benefits received, and to implore such farther Blessings as they stand in Need of: And it having pleased him in his abundant Mercy, not only to continue to us the innumerable Bounties of his common Providence; but also to smile upon us in the Prosecution of a just and necessary War, for the Defense and Establishment of our unalienable Rights and Liberties;particularly in that he hath been pleased, in so great a Measure, to prosper the Means used for the Support of our Troops, and to crown our Arms with most signal success:

It is therefore recommended to the legislative or executive Powers of these UNITED STATES to set apart THURSDAY, the eighteenth Day of December next, for SOLEMN THANKSGIVING and PRAISE: That at one Time and with one Voice, the good People may express the grateful Feelings of their Hearts, and consecrate themselves to the Service of their Divine Benefactor; and that, together with their sincere Acknowledgments and Offerings, they may join the penitent Confession of their manifold Sins, whereby they had forfeited every Favor; and their humble and earnest Supplication that it may please GOD through the Merits of JESUS CHRIST, mercifully to forgive and blot them out of Remembrance; That it may please him graciously to afford his Blessing on the Governments of these States respectively, and prosper the public Council of the whole: To inspire our Commanders, both by Land and Sea, and all under them, with that Wisdom and Fortitude which may render them fit Instruments, under the Providence of Almighty GOD, to secure for these United States, the greatest of all human Blessings, INDEPENDENCE and PEACE:That it may please him, to prosper the Trade and Manufactures of the People, and the Labor of the Husbandman, that our Land may yield its Increase: To take Schools and Seminaries of Education, so necessary for cultivating the Principles of true Liberty, Virtue and Piety, under his nurturing Hand; and to prosper the Means of Religion, for the promotion and enlargement of that Kingdom, which consisteth “in Righteousness, Peace and Joy in the Holy Ghost.

And it is further recommended, That servile Labor, and such Recreation, as, though at other Times innocent, may be unbecoming the Purpose of this Appointment, be omitted on so solemn an Occasion.1

I guess these guys didn’t understand the principle of separation of church and state.

  1. http://www.pilgrimhall.org/GivingThanks3c.htm, Nov. 2008 []

A glimpse into the future

I dropped my daughter off at the animal hospital today. On Thanksgiving!

Evidently, to more than a few people, our pets imagined “emotional health” is now more important than setting aside a time to be thankful to God.

As I headed home, I thought of the growing trend of people treating their pets like children. How “cute” it all is! How trendy!

Where will this anthropomorphizing end?

Let me venture a guess…

Since it is currently acceptable to treat animals like children, how long will it be before some pop culture television show or magazine does an “exposé” of some hot, “edgy” chicks in New York or San Francisco or Los Angeles who have chosen to make “Bruiser” their partner?

It may already have happened as far as I know. I don’t frequent those “hip”, dark cultural alleys.

You say that is sick. Who are you to impose your morality on her?…or me?

Seriously, what is to stop it? After all, who is she harming? If it makes her happy…

And while we are at it, why can’t she and “Bruiser” be “married”? Why should we limit it to two humans?

“For the mind set on the flesh is death…”  Romans 8:6

Dog’s best friend

My youngest daughter has to work tomorrow! On Thanksgiving!

What does she do? She works at an animal hospital. She had to go in to keep the dogs company!!!

“Keep the dogs company? You mean a dog can’t be alone for one day?”

“Dad, 200 people are paying the hospital to keep their dogs company over the holidays.”

I guess things have changed. In the not too distant past, a dog was frequently referred to as man’s best friend. Now, I guess man has become dog’s best friend.

No matter how much we try to deceive ourselves, they are still just dogs. No matter how much we flatter ourselves in our imaginations about our pet’s “loyalty” to us and “emotional dependence” upon us, they still remain animals. Your precious “Fluffy” or prized “Bruiser” will gladly abandon your house to come over to mine if I start feeding it better than you do.